"If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves." -Thomas Alva Edison
Every child is different and unique in their own way. Confidence is a key which helps individuals learn and grow. However, Neurodiverse children may face challenges developing self confidence as compared to neurotypical children. It requires patience and kindness in order to teach them about it. In a world where they are constantly seen as different, it is crucial to acknowledge their individuality and guide them to grow.
Here are a few ways in which we can help a child develop self confidence:
- Focus on their strengths, not limitations;
We often focus on the concerns, problems, and difficulties of neurodiverse children. However, there will be something that your child excels at! It requires patience, understanding and kindness to find your child's passion. Keep a note of how they express themselves- Are they good at art, craft, gaming, patterns, numbers etc. Every child is capable and has a skill that is waiting to be nurtured.
- Encourage autonomy:
Let them explore! Give choices for even the smallest of decisions. This could be choosing what to wear, which snacks to eat, what to do over the weekend. This empowers self reliance and independence.
- Create supportive environment :
Surround them with people who will support them. Teach them the skill set of advocacy which can help voice their opinions in a safe environment. Interacting with kids their age can help boost their confidence.
- Use Positive Language:
Our words can play a very important role in a child’s life, our tone, body language can deeply impact a child. Words can often turn into a child’s belief system. Instead of saying
- “you can’t do this…” say “Let’s breaks this down for you”
- “Youre too slow” say “take your time, you are doing great!”
- Trying new things
Help them get outside their comfort zone. Help them to explore new things and new worlds. Show them role models, children will work best when they see what they can do and not what they can't.
It is extremely important to acknowledge that while we strive for a positive environment, challenges will arise. A child will have difficulties and limitations but the important thing is to help them focus on their strength and recognize their own potential.